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So what do you do now?
January 6, 2012
This is a question that sooooo many students stumble over. Should they even be in college.
Should they change their major….again? Should they tolerate their roommate or simply look for a new one, since this one is NOT working out. Or even more important….now that I am graduating, and don’t have a job prospect…what do I do?
Well, set up a 60 day strategic plan. Seriously 2 months will give you enough time to see if other majors are better for you, or if that roommate simply has to go. It also will give you a targeted time plan to focus on who you want to interview with and seek initial employment or least get practice interviews with.
60 days is just enough time to really sink your teeth into what your next steps should be, while allowing yourself to see “light at the end of the tunnel.” Try this method and at least you will feel that you are in some type of control of your life.
If not, you will just keep floundering and questioning and not really knowing where to go to next. Take control of this plan and at least feel secure that you have taken at least one major step forward.
You MUST draw out your plan and put it where it is visible. In a binder, on your screen saver, in your car or up on the wall.
Just give this a try….you might be surprised at the results you will get from this!
Write down your doubt & improve your scores!
January 14, 2011
Great news! There was a recent study that proves when a student writes down their immediate worries about an upcoming test, it releases a subconscious angst that becomes minimized! Test scores were showing a 5% to 15% improvement over previous scores.
This was not a random one time event….this was done repeatedly with large groups of students….and each time the group of students who “wrote & released” had better scores, than the students taking the exact same test in a different room! HOW COOL!
Simply writing down what you are concerned about…fearful of screwing up….actually helped you.
Why burden yourself with worry? Simply write and release…..simply write and release.
It is simple and cathartic and it works!
I speak on the power of the mind, and have been involved in clinical hypnosis for years. Many of your talents are held back because you are scared, apprehensive and simply do not have the confidence in yourself to achieve so many, many things!
Be creating a different mind set, you create an internal visual of confidence that comes out thru many aspects of your personality. If you choose not to make any of these changes….than you will succeed….and NOT change anything. How sad!
Give yourself the permission to make changes within your life. Because by choosing to make changes…you can.
How many of you simply keep on doing the “same old routine”…and never change? It is not easy to change. It is uncomfortable and most people buck it.
By choosing to take even a few steps that are different, you will begin to see positive changes within your life.
Here’s another study was done that really should be considered a NO BRAINER!
College students prefer praise and positive reinforcement over that of booze, sex….and even money. Duhhh!!!!
But yes a study was done nationwide and it reinforced that students respond to praise more than anything else. It really is the power of words. If someone believes in you and praises you or makes even a simply positive statement…you respond in a different way. A positive way!
Like I said it IS the power of YOUR mind. How you believe in yourself and how you perceive yourself can make a dramatic difference academically, socially and personally.
This is a unique journey that you are on, going thru life. Take some control and make it rock.
It truly is “all in your mind!”
How cool!
Confidence in college can be yours thru each semester…and can continue to grow as you enter and begin your career.
Bring Eileen Strong to speak at your college and take those next steps of confidence. The payback will be incredible!
Make this semester close in style and success!
November 29, 2010
Face up….it did go by fast. The semester, the exams, the papers, the homework, the headaches….and even some fun. But it WAS work! But now you are wrapping up and soon go “home for the holidays!”
Did you achieve what you wanted to get done. Did your GPA stay or exceed what you were looking for?
Continue to push yourself so that you reach a little bit more. I know this sounds trite, but you have to push yourself. If not, someone else will.
How focused are you? Someone else is possibly hungrier than you are, and will push themselves. This generation of kids born in the 80′s and 90′s are finding a new, more intense level of competition. You have to keep at it. And this type of competition is here to stay. The rules are changing, and bright, focused and “hungry” young people are meeting their goals and objectives.
Gone are the days of going to the office, 5 days a weeks, 9 to 5. Hours are longer, productivity is steeper and competition remains high.
But you are the generation that can and will do this!
Where your laptop is, where your office might be. Hours will not be consistent, but productivity will remain high…because of you have chosen it.
Suicide….what’s your hurry?
October 5, 2010
It is sad that college can be so emotionally trying. Last week a young Freshmen from Rutgers, chose to jump off the George Washington bridge, after his roommate and female friend filmed an intimate encounter….that should have remained private.
As a result, a family has lost a son. A young mans life has been ended way too soon. And two young people are going to carry the emotional, social and financial burden of a foolish mistake that has an unbelievable price tag.
Everyone has lost as a result of this mistake. Simply everyone.
Civility has become a hot topic on the college campus. And it needs to be addressed with intensity. But the first step starts with you.
Yes you.
The opportunity to engage in conversation with anyone experiencing rejection, confusion or hurt is just the beginning. But listen…listen, listen. Do not ignore, if you sense that something is wrong.
Seek counseling, or at least extend a hand out in friendship.
But the suicide, according to my college son….was a cowards way out. He feels that the young man, should have taken steps to seek help. Not to jump from a bridge…and make such a permanent, defining decision.
Please respond with your comments. Lets do a survey and find out how you feel about all three of these students. The victim – The “bully” – The participant.
Everyone lost here….simply everyone.
Eileen Strong Confidence In College
Freshman Fears and Facts!
September 8, 2010
You are the NEW kid in town. People have packed you up, sent you money, wished you the best….and now you are in a dorm, with a person who might become your BFF…or not.
Your emotions are high, the classes can become intimidating, and you might even hate some of your professors. Fess up, it can happen.
In fact you may not even like the dorm you’ve been dumped in. So you are homesick, and sick of school in such a short time.
Well it is time to take a deep breath and realize that this is a mega change taking place in your life. And I mean BIG.
Hang in there.
Talk to friends back home, call the family and just learn to pace yourself.
Don’t do excessive drinking, just to get recognized and accepted.
Everyday another college student dies from alcohol poisoning. Make sure you are not part of that statistic.
The booze, parties, and events will continue to build, as you make your way around. Trust me it WILL all work out.
Just give it some time. Stay in love with who ever you left behind, but know that new relationships can easily be on the horizon. Don’t shut yourself out from new friendships.
Write and release your fears, or talk it out with someone you can trust… even an adult on campus if you have to.
Don’t give up!
There are way too many guys dropping out. The gals are hanging in there.
Believe in yourself, give yourself a pat on the back and recognize what is taking place all around you. It will be okay.
Trust me. Stay in touch with the ConfidenceInCollege.com blog and more answers will be on the way.